Human beings are an excellent example of the sum of all parts. Everything that has happened to us, good or bad, since birth, has played a role in who we are today. The “Nature vs. Nurture” debate is ongoing, but I believe that both play a part in our lives.
Not only do your successes and failures shape different aspects of your life, how you handle them can play a vital role in your future. Failure is always disappointing, especially if it’s something you wanted badly, and worked hard for, but letting failure cripple you is unacceptable. When things don’t turn out the way that you wanted them to, it’s hard to be objective, but that is exactly what you have to do in order to move on.
Failure to achieve a goal is not failure as a person. Don’t automatically blame everyone else to cover up your own disappointment. No failure is the result of the actions of just one person, but in order to understand why you failed, you have to accept your share of the responsibility. Even if the failure is the result of another person’s actions, remember, you only control yourself, not other people. Hindsight is 20/20, so look back and think about what you could have done differently and learn from it. There may have even been something that you could have done to make that person act, or react, differently.
There are times that no matter how closely you look, you can’t find a reason for not succeeding. There doesn’t always have to be a logical reason, life just works that way once in a while. While failure may change your life, it doesn’t change you as a person. The people that truly love you won’t see you any differently as long as you don’t let it color your opinion of yourself.
Put the whole encounter down to experience, when you learn from past mistakes you are much more likely to succeed in your next endeavor. Even the most painful events in our lives offer a chance for you to learn from them, and grow as a person.